Letting Go of Our "Rightness"--March 3, 2026
"Nicodemus said to [Jesus], 'How can these things be?' Jesus answered him, 'Are you the teacher of Israel, and yet you do not understand these things? Very truly, I tell you, we speak of what we know and testify to what we have seen, yet you do not receive our testimony. If I have told you about earthly things and you do not believe, how can you believe if I tell you about heavenly things?'" (John 3:9-12)
I think one of the hardest things for me to realize--and to accept--about this life of faith is that none of us will have all the answers, no matter how faithful we think we are, no matter how pious, how smart, how studious, or how virtuous we imagine ourselves to be. That's especially hard for me at especially because I'm a pastor, who has been extensively trained in things like theology and biblical texts, and I don't want to admit that those things will still not give me all the puzzle pieces. And on top of that, I think all of us at some level seek for answers, for truth, and for meaning from our faith in God. And if it turns out that we are not guaranteed we'll be right all the time, we may wonder why we even bother with this faith of ours. Nobody likes to be wrong, and nobody even wants to admit they don't have it all figured out--but it sure seems like following Jesus is going to strip away our masks of "rightness" and compel us to admit how often we just cannot understand God's ways in the world.
This, you might say, is another cost of following Jesus rather than staying in our own little bubbles of personal spirituality and self-help. If we keep Jesus at arm's length, we can delude ourselves into thinking we have all the answers figured out and all the mysteries of God resolved. But if we let Jesus draw us in close, we'll discover--like Nicodemus--how much we don't really know after all. The theologian and former Bishop N.T. Wright once said that he expects when he gets to glory, he'll find out that at least one-third of everything he has believed and taught will turn out to be wrong; he just doesn't know which one-third it is. And while we can certainly quibble about percentages (I am prepared to admit that a whole lot more of what I think may turn out to be wrong), I think there is something honest, and therefore brave, about Wright's admission. It's hard to face the reality that we don't have all the answers, and that along with that truth, there are likely a good number of things we think we are right about, which we will learn are at some point are actually incorrect. If our reason for clinging to religion is that we think it promises us unquestionable certainty and rightness, Jesus has some bad news for us.
This section of the conversation between Jesus and Nicodemus, which many of us heard in worship this past Sunday, brings that into sharp focus. Nicodemus entered this conversation with Jesus at night fancying himself an Answers Guy. He was a member of the Pharisees--a group within first-century Judaism that was diligent in reading the Scriptures, dedicated to living out the commandments, and zealous in seeking God's will. On top of that, he was a teacher and a leader among that group--he would have had some of the most extensive and thorough religious education, and would have learned from the most learned minds of his faith tradition. But he gets barely a few sentences into a conversation with Jesus, when Jesus starts taking all he thought he knew and turning it upside down and inside out. All the answers he thought he had, packaged and ready to dole out to people who came to him seeking The Truth, and here, Jesus comes along and blows them all away like the wind scattering dry leaves. If Nicodemus is going to continue at all with listening to Jesus, he is going to have to let go, not only of the answers he was sure he had, but of his illusion of "rightness." You've got to give him credit, I suppose--at least Nicodemus doesn't go running out the door with his ears plugged when Jesus starts knocking over his theological house of cards.
But that begs the question: what about us? Are we only interested in following Jesus or listening to him if he promises always to reinforce what we already believe about God or want to be true--or are we willing to let him turn our old perspectives upside down and reveal where we have been wrong... possibly about things we have believed for a very long time and about topics that are very important to us (like God)? That's a tall order. But ultimately it is worth it, as costly and scary as it may be. It is worth it to let Jesus rearrange our understanding. It is worth it to admit we've gotten it wrong, so that we can learn and see things anew. It is worth it to face the possibility that we've wanted to force God into our preconceived notions and boxes rather than letting the Spirit elude our grasp and slide out of every leash we try and put God into. It is worth it to give up not so much control, but the illusion of control that we have been clinging onto so tightly. All those things are worth it because they come as we are pulled closer to Jesus. And being where Jesus is? That turns out to be the best possible place to be.
Lord Jesus, draw us close to you, even if it means letting go and leaving behind the answers we thought we had figured out.






