Questions of Allegiance--June 23, 2026
[Jesus said to the disciples:]“Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth; I have not come to bring peace but a sword.
For I have come to set a man against his father,
and a daughter against her mother,
and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law,
and one’s foes will be members of one’s own household.
Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me." (Matthew 10:34-37)
There's no way around it: this is hard stuff. And it's hard to hear for several reasons, honestly.
For starters, it's hard to hear Jesus, whom we also name "the prince of peace" and who teaches us to forgive and reconcile while also loving our enemies, talk about bringing division like a "sword." At first blush that seems to fly in the face of all we've heard Jesus say and teach, and we might want to advise Jesus, "Why are you making things so unnecessarily difficult, Jesus?" or even to ask, "Have you not been listening to everything you said back in the Sermon on the Mount? Why the change of tone?"
On top of that, when Jesus talks about the kind of conflict his presence might spark, it's painful to hear that he expects families to be fractured over him. That's hard since so many prominent religious voices over the past fifty years have marketed Christianity as basically a program of "family values" that will help us raise perfect children and strengthen our marriages. But here is Jesus warning us that the opposite might happen on his account, and families might well be thrown in to tension and division because of him.
And then, just for good measure, I'll add that it sounds unlike Jesus to hear him speak of people being "unworthy" of him, for any reason--much less for him to say someone is "not worthy" of him because they love their families. Jesus so often seems to be the one reaching out wide arms to the very people who have been labeled "unworthy" or "unacceptable" or "not good enough" that it is jarring to now see these words on his lips.
What are we to make of all these verses, which many of us have been wrestling with since we heard them most recently this past Sunday? Well, let's try and consider each of these concerns, and see if maybe we can shed some light alongside all the heat they are generating.
First off, let's go back to the top of our list and think of why Jesus would say he has come to bring, "not peace but a sword." And right off the bat, let's make it clear that this is NOT Jesus talking about literal swords, as though he were building an army, raising up a militia, starting a coup to "take his country back for God," or authorizing his followers to kill anybody. None of those are anywhere close to what Jesus has in mind. Jesus does, however, fully recognize that there will be starkly different reactions to him in the world, and those divisions will run like fault lines right down the line of households and families. Some folks will be drawn to Jesus' vision of God's Reign as a beloved community where outsiders are welcomed, outcasts are restored, the untouchables are embraced, and the lowly are lifted up... and some will be repulsed by it. It might just happen among the members of a family all under one roof.
For that matter, some folks will be upset that Jesus expects an allegiance to him stronger than the old Roman virtue of being devoted to the paterfamilias. The culture of the day expected that each member of the family would dedicate their work, time, and energy toward enhancing the status and standing of the family name: amassing wealth for the family, gaining property, titles, or standing, and otherwise helping out your own little family group. And here comes Jesus, who quite often summoned people away from the family business, calling them to be generous toward others beyond just those in their immediate family, and who seemed to be building a new kind of family, defined not by blood or ancestry, but by him. All of that would have been a slap in the face to the heads of households who heard Jesus. And Jesus is just being honest about that: he really is calling us beyond a narrow attachment to "Me and My Group First" and instead calls us to give our allegiance to him and the new "found family" of people whom Jesus has gathered around himself--including all those outsiders, "sinners," and misfits Jesus welcomed to his table.
And maybe that helps to put in perspective Jesus' talk about being "worthy" or "unworthy" of him. I don't get the sense at all that Jesus is now all of a sudden starting some kind of exclusive club reserved only for VIPs. It's not that Jesus had earlier said, "Everybody's welcome" and now he's changed it up and said, "Well... not for the likes of YOU." But rather, I think Jesus has in mind that at some point in our lives we are going to have to choose which gets our priority--our commitment to "the family name" and all the cultural baggage of improving our family status and looking out for the interests of our little group, clan, or tribe--or our commitment to Jesus. Because at some time, we will not be able to spend our energies on both, and we will have to choose who is more important to us, or rather, which way of life will be our guiding path. Will we set our lives toward doing whatever is best for "Me and My Group First" or will we allow Jesus to reorient us toward his vision of God's Reign, which is expansive, and even reckless, in its extravagant care for insiders, outsiders, neighbors, strangers, and even enemies? Jesus seems to think that our old parochial and tribal allegiances are too small and not worth our time or energy any longer. Will we allow him to lead us beyond the shortsighted self-interest of "Me and My Group First" and give our lives to his wider vision of God's Reign of abundance, mercy, and justice for all peoples? Anything smaller or lesser than that just seems... unworthy, I suppose. Unworthy of us spending our lives on.
In the end, then, Jesus is not announcing a new plan for an armed uprising or an exclusive country club with high gates. Rather, he is being honest with us: following him will make us weird in the eyes of the world, including those of our own families. And at some point we will have to choose whether we are willing to continue being associated with Jesus, even when that makes us counter-cultural and calls us to a different kind of community than the lines of biology and clan, or whether we would rather keep in line with our culture's own "Me and My Group First" expectations. If we dare to keep on with Jesus, we may find that it upsets people around us, including our closest relations. But Jesus also seems to think that the "found family" he has begun is worth going against the flow for.
Maybe today's question, then, is, do we dare to trust him on that?
Lord Jesus, give us the courage to let you orient us with your priorities and your way, even when that challenges the expectations of those around us.






